i don’t get it. i think most stars must realize how warped they are due to their status, like “i can’t go to the grocery store and have normal, transient interactions with other people because i’m a huge celebrity and would get mobbed. that must have a considerable effect on my social skills and how i view myself.” i can’t imagine how a star couldn’t realize that.
considering that, i think if i were a star who was aware that i was going to end up a little stunted, i would want to ground myself with lots of non-star people in my life. people who would keep me in touch with reality so that i wouldn’t go asking police “do you know my name? you’re about to find out who i am. you’re going to be on national news.” (that’s a reese witherspoon quote from when she had a run-in with police over disorderly conduct.)
i think the argument could be made that stars might need star spouses so that they always have someone who can relate to their special situations and struggles…but i don’t buy it. i think that’s like saying addicts should marry other addicts for the same reason. it’s just a bad idea. two people with the same problem are more likely to end up indulging each other, enabling and reinforcing the negative behaviours. i think stars would be better off with someone who does not have the same baggage, someone who would remind the star of what it’s like to be normal, to not be entitled, to not expect special treatment.
which kind of leads me to another point. i think it’s a good thing when couples have totally different baggage. for instance, say a person is always up for doing cool fun stuff but at the cost of putting serious priorities aside, while their partner is good at taking care of serious priorities but not very good at being spontaneous and social. i think there’s a good chance these qualities could balance each other out, and each person could learn a lot from the other; that both could become more well-rounded individuals eventually, as long as both partners are willing to admit their weaknesses and work to improve them.